Posts Tagged ‘blowjobs’

Amelia’s New Year’s Resolution: “No More BJs”

December 29, 2008

My friend and sometime editor at The Frisky, Amelia McDonell-Parry, listed her New Year’s resolutions and one of them was:

4. No more BJs: Not completely, I mean, and it’s not like I’m giving them at all right now, given my sex sabbatical, but in, uh, past relationships, I realized I was giving them more than the average woman. My friends confirmed this. Hence, I want to join the ranks of my fellow females and make a blow job a special occasion occurrence, rather than part of my usual routine.

I think that’s interesting; on the one hand, I think it’s great to elevate it to something special. On the other…well, if I get lucky enough to date someone new in the new year, and it’s a guy, I have a feeling he will be getting a lot of blowjobs from me. Not that anyone reading this should be surprised.

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Spit vs. swallow: 2 college sex columnists go head to head

September 4, 2008

Two college sex columnists (who write for The Orion, Cal State Chico’s paper) debate the pros and cons of spitting vs. swallowing during blowjobs:

Chris Thompson: Would you like sauce with that?

The feeling you get from pleasing your partner should outweigh the mild stomach churn you may endure.

According to the credible doctors at dontspitswallow.com, cum is a concentrated source of protein and other essential nutrients. And despite its creamy appearance, semen contains about 15 calories per ejaculation.

Not only is cum a nutritious low-fat snack, swallowing just makes everything easier – no cleanup, no awkward post-bust bathroom trips, no problem – right?

Dionna Mash: Would you like sauce with that?

A mouthful of slimy spunk is the last refreshment I want replenishing me after a long, hard workout. Plus, purging the man juice reduces the chance of waking up with a throat full of gonorrhea.

Yep, that’s right. Guzzling down dong water puts you at risk for contracting the Human Papillomavirus, herpes type 1 and 2, Chlamydia and gonorrhea of the throat and HIV, according to www.teenhealthfx.com.

Plus, spitting shows whoever you’re sucking off that even though you’re on your knees, you still have the upper hand.

Oh, and Chris’s best friend – I hate to tell you this, but your ex lied to you. Cum tastes awful. Sure, there’s a range of funk from not-too-bad to putrid, but yummy? Not a chance.

Highly recommended: Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide to Oral Sex: Fellatio

August 13, 2008

Yes, sex educator, author, erotica editor, porn star and director and all around smart, kinky person Tristan Taormino is a friend of mine. But I can honestly say that this move of hers is crazy hot. I rarely watch porn and I was all over this (umm…and my vibrator). Bald guys getting blowjobs? It’s like Rachel porn heaven!

See hot pics from the set at Fleshbot

Here’s the description from Adult Film Database:

Women attend a fellatio workshop lead by sex expert Tristan Taormino, where she teaches about male sexual anatomy and offers explicit advice and detailed examples to improve and enhance your oral sex skills. She welcomes her co-hosts Roxy and Christian who then demonstrate various techniques for the crowd as Tristan narrates what they are doing; workshop participants watch and ask questions. After the workshop, we meet Kaiya and Alec, who discuss their thoughts about oral sex and share some of their tips and tricks for maximum pleasure. Kaiya gives Alec an enthusiastic blow job while illustrating the benefits of different positions and stimulation techniques. Next, we meet Lindsey and Marcos and watch as they explore this intimate activity with an incredible display of honesty, vulnerability, and intensity. Through generous, throughful communication, their trust and connection builds before your eyes. As Lindsey experiments with different ways to use her hands and mouth for stimulation, her impressive skills bring Marcos intense pleasure and the heat between them is palpable. Her efforts culminate in an earth shattering orgasm for him. Alec returns, this time with gorgeous blond Adrianna, and she demonstrates several elements of advanced oral sex, including deep throat techniques. Discover more about prostate stimulation, fellatio on an uncircumcised penis, and safer sex tips in the mini-features included as extras on the DVD. Delve into the world of fellatio, taught by sex expert Tristan Taormino and demonstrated with knowledge and skill by enthusiastic couples. Learn, experience, and enjoy oral pleasure, by experts.

Porn star Sasha Grey on why she likes fellatio

August 13, 2008

Porn star Sasha Grey on how she moved from thinking blowjobs were “gross” to loving giving them – via YouTube – she also talks about being submissive or dominant while giving a blowjob, which I think is a fascinating topic.

Tasting Him hits bookstores in September 2008

August 13, 2008

(Hint: this book should be available in August – copies are in to the publisher! I’ll post when you can get them in your hot little hands.)

Check back here for fellatio stories and more info on Tasting Him: Oral Sex Stories, edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel, in stores September 2008 from Cleis Press.

Below is the Table of Contents and introduction:

Introduction: The Power and Pleasure of Cocksucking
Gloss by Rachel Kramer Bussel
A Treatise of Human Nature by Robert Peregrine
Quite a Mouthful: Confessions of a Sweet Cocksucker by Tish Andersen
This Just In by Heidi Champa
Blessed Benediction by Radclyffe
How I Learned to Give Good Head by Amanda Earl
Without Eyes by Terri Pray
Tony Tempo by Tsaurah Litzky
A Tongue is Just a Tongue by Michelle Robinson
It’s a Wonderful Blowjob by Simon Sheppard
Down on the Beach by Alessia Brio
Getting Used to It by Tenille Brown
Cocksucker by Lori Selke
Prego by Alison Tyler
Equanimity Unbounded by Craig J. Sorensen
Fellatio: A Love Story by Scarlett French
Logic by Jacqueline Applebee
Frosted by Kristina Wright
Long Relief by T. Hitman
Open Wide by Marina Saint
Sketch of a Suckoff by Thomas S. Roche
Sculpted by Shanna Germain
After Dinner Mint by Donna George Storey

Introduction: The Power and Pleasure of Cocksucking

It’s common knowledge that I have a decided oral fixation, and to me, nothing signals the culmination of that fixation better than giving a blow job. In so many ways, it’s my favorite erotic act in and of itself, or as foreplay. Sometimes, our culture sends the message that those who enjoy going down are somehow only doing the bidding of someone else who’s getting all the pleasure. Caitlin Flanagan asked in The Atlantic Monthly in a rambling review of the young adult novel Rainbow Party, “Whatever happened to the hand job? Whither the dry hump? Why do girls prefer the far more debasing, uncomfortable, and messy blow job?” What she doesn’t realize is that some of us enjoy blow jobs precisely because they can be “debasing, uncomfortable, and messy.” We like to savor those sensations, engage with the power play, get off on being “ordered” to do it. Or we lustily get down on our knees and demand that our lovers give us their cocks. We know that the power of a good blow job goes both ways, and now, we want you to know just how hot it makes us.

What’s special about Tasting Him, though, is that these aren’t your usual blow jobs. There’s no rush to get the “job” aspect of it over with. There’s power play in these blow jobs and, just to be clear, they’re not all “him”s receiving them. Oh, no. Here, cocks are real and metaphorical, made of solid flesh and even more solid silicone. Here, men and women get down on their knees and take what’s rightfully theirs. Women discover the power of getting a blow job, while a few men surprise themselves with their own prowess.

Recently, I read an amazing story, “Me, When I’m with You,” by Matthilde Madden, in my friend Alison Tyler’s anthology H Is for Hardcore. In it, a woman gives a man a blow job. Nothing that unusual there…except that she’s the top in the story, a woman who rules the roost, who orders her lover to spend whole days naked. She reigns over him, and yet she manages to go down on him without losing control. She reclaims the act of taking a man’s member into her mouth, showing him who’s really in charge. Madden wrote, “I love sucking your cock. It took me a while to find a suitably dom way of sucking your cock, but eventually I discovered that if your hands were tied behind your back and your ankles were forced apart with a spreader bar and your nipples were clamped and I had a vibrator tight against your arsehole, that worked for me.”

That is precisely the kind of energy I wanted to bring to this book. There are blow-job queens and blow-job virgins, those who are squeamish and those who are shy. There are those who live to suck cock and those who live to get their cocks sucked. There are lessons of the practical and more ephemeral to be learned here.

While I can’t guarantee that this book will lead to better blow jobs (though I do encourage you, like the protagonist in Scarlett French’s “Fellatio: A Love Story,” to check out Violet Blue’s how-to book The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio), I can strongly predict that you won’t be able to make it all the way through these twenty-four tales without having to put your hands down your pants. Whether you possess one or not, you’ll likely want to get your dick sucked by the end of this book, unless your mouth is too busy watering.

Like French’s character, there are many teachers and students here, some eager to learn all they can about how to make the experience hotter and juicier for their lovers, and some who are shown the ropes by those who care enough to explain exactly what gets them off. In stories like Robert Peregrine’s “A Treatise on Human Nature,” a man tries to teach his new female lover “how to give head like a man,” while in the kinky “Quite a Mouthful: Confessions of a Sweet Cocksucker” by Tish Andersen and “Without Eyes” by Terri Pray, the women in these stories get over their fears and let their masters take control of their mouths, then thrill to the slurping sounds and sensations of real submission. And “Tony Tempo,” the title character in Tsaurah Litzky’s story, shows you’re never too old to enjoy a perfectly pursed pair of lips.

Another natural theme here also involves oral pleasure of a different sort. Food and fellatio seem to go, well, hand in mouth, as seen in Alison Tyler’s inventive “Prego,” involving, yes, the spaghetti sauce, Kristina Wright’s cinnamon roll treat “Frosted,” and Donna George Storey’s exploration of the famed powers of an “After Dinner Mint,” or in this case, liqueur, on a blow job. All speak to the sensual power of a hungry mouth, and show the ways both appetites can be satisfied at the same time.

The getter and giver are both worshipped in these stories. While many tell of an insatiable yearning for a full mouth, others share the thrill, both corporeal and visual, of the blow job, along with the pronounced power dynamics. In “Blessed Benediction,” prolific erotica writer Radclyffe gives us some insight into what it’s like to watch the one you love put her pretty little lips to good use:

Now, the reason my girl is such a great cocksucker is that she understands that a blow job is as much about the show as it is about her hot, wet mouth sliding up and down my cock until I come in her mouth. She doesn’t go down on me like it’s a chore, or penance, or a favor. She turns giving head into a work of art. Every move is designed to let me know she gets off on my cock, and that teasing my rod makes her cream.

Hers and other stories here show that you don’t have to be a man to have a cock, or to enjoy having it licked, sucked, and swallowed. Getting a blow job is about both the physical sensation, and the view, whether she’s blindfolded as in Pray’s story, or staring up at you while her mouth is full.

Tasting Him pays tribute to those who enjoy the act, and art, of fellatio wherever it occur–in a bed, in the crashing surf, as in Alessia Brio’s “Down on the Beach,” or at a kitchen table, as in Tenille Brown’s “Getting Used to It.” I hope it turns you on as much to read these tales as it did me to edit them.

Rachel Kramer Bussel
New York City