Posts Tagged ‘fellatio’

Spice up fellatio with a mint

March 6, 2009

From the wonderful Debby Herbenick at Time Out Chicago, as part of a larger piece on food and sex:

This one is for the foodies—it takes the old “ice trick” (i.e., sucking on ice and then performing oral sex) up a notch. Ahead of time, slice mint leaves and allow them to soak in water overnight to saturate the water with mintyness. Then, use the minty water (keep the leaves in it) to fill ice trays and stick them in the freezer. When your playdate comes around, suck on minty ice prior to performing oral sex—the change in temperature plus the minty sensation will add major tingles. To turn this trick into “fire and ice,” alternate between sucking on a minty ice cube and sipping hot mint tea in between bouts of oral. Because women’s genitals are more sensitive than men’s, this is best for fellatio. For cunnilingus, omit the mint and just go with the ice and (nonmint) tea, lest you accidentally make your lady too tingly.


Spit vs. swallow: 2 college sex columnists go head to head

September 4, 2008

Two college sex columnists (who write for The Orion, Cal State Chico’s paper) debate the pros and cons of spitting vs. swallowing during blowjobs:

Chris Thompson: Would you like sauce with that?

The feeling you get from pleasing your partner should outweigh the mild stomach churn you may endure.

According to the credible doctors at, cum is a concentrated source of protein and other essential nutrients. And despite its creamy appearance, semen contains about 15 calories per ejaculation.

Not only is cum a nutritious low-fat snack, swallowing just makes everything easier – no cleanup, no awkward post-bust bathroom trips, no problem – right?

Dionna Mash: Would you like sauce with that?

A mouthful of slimy spunk is the last refreshment I want replenishing me after a long, hard workout. Plus, purging the man juice reduces the chance of waking up with a throat full of gonorrhea.

Yep, that’s right. Guzzling down dong water puts you at risk for contracting the Human Papillomavirus, herpes type 1 and 2, Chlamydia and gonorrhea of the throat and HIV, according to

Plus, spitting shows whoever you’re sucking off that even though you’re on your knees, you still have the upper hand.

Oh, and Chris’s best friend – I hate to tell you this, but your ex lied to you. Cum tastes awful. Sure, there’s a range of funk from not-too-bad to putrid, but yummy? Not a chance.

Highly recommended: Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide to Oral Sex: Fellatio

August 13, 2008

Yes, sex educator, author, erotica editor, porn star and director and all around smart, kinky person Tristan Taormino is a friend of mine. But I can honestly say that this move of hers is crazy hot. I rarely watch porn and I was all over this (umm…and my vibrator). Bald guys getting blowjobs? It’s like Rachel porn heaven!

See hot pics from the set at Fleshbot

Here’s the description from Adult Film Database:

Women attend a fellatio workshop lead by sex expert Tristan Taormino, where she teaches about male sexual anatomy and offers explicit advice and detailed examples to improve and enhance your oral sex skills. She welcomes her co-hosts Roxy and Christian who then demonstrate various techniques for the crowd as Tristan narrates what they are doing; workshop participants watch and ask questions. After the workshop, we meet Kaiya and Alec, who discuss their thoughts about oral sex and share some of their tips and tricks for maximum pleasure. Kaiya gives Alec an enthusiastic blow job while illustrating the benefits of different positions and stimulation techniques. Next, we meet Lindsey and Marcos and watch as they explore this intimate activity with an incredible display of honesty, vulnerability, and intensity. Through generous, throughful communication, their trust and connection builds before your eyes. As Lindsey experiments with different ways to use her hands and mouth for stimulation, her impressive skills bring Marcos intense pleasure and the heat between them is palpable. Her efforts culminate in an earth shattering orgasm for him. Alec returns, this time with gorgeous blond Adrianna, and she demonstrates several elements of advanced oral sex, including deep throat techniques. Discover more about prostate stimulation, fellatio on an uncircumcised penis, and safer sex tips in the mini-features included as extras on the DVD. Delve into the world of fellatio, taught by sex expert Tristan Taormino and demonstrated with knowledge and skill by enthusiastic couples. Learn, experience, and enjoy oral pleasure, by experts.

Another blowjob tutorial, this time from College Callgirl

August 13, 2008

One of my favorite bloggers, College Callgirl, offers a blowjob tutorial:

If his dick is too big for you to take the whole thing in your mouth, you’ll need to use your hand too. Slobber all over his cock for awhile first so your hand will slide easily up and down instead of just catching on his dry skin. The most important hand move is the twister. When you slide your hand up his shaft, twist your wrist. A twisting motion gets you into a smoother rhythm than the straight up and down. Slide your hand up and down on the base of his cock in conjunction with your mouth moving up and down on the rest of it. The hard part is finding the correct grip: again you may want his guidance.

Another good trick is to wrap your hand around the top of his cock and put your mouth over your hand. Then slide your hand down the shaft and your mouth down on top of it in a fluid motion until your hand meets the base of his cock. It will feel like you’re sliding your mouth all the way down him even if you can’t. It’s times like these I wish I could draw; I’d make little diagrams.

And I love this:

I’m pretty sure if I tried to analyze the sloppy-mouthed voodoo I perform when I give oral sex, it would look something like this:

Porn star Sasha Grey on why she likes fellatio

August 13, 2008

Porn star Sasha Grey on how she moved from thinking blowjobs were “gross” to loving giving them – via YouTube – she also talks about being submissive or dominant while giving a blowjob, which I think is a fascinating topic.

Chelseagirl on the joys of deepthroating

August 13, 2008

from a classic post by Pretty Dumb Things blogger Chelseagirl: “what it feels like for a deep-throating girl”

The mouthfeel of a hard cock is singular. A soft cock kind of feels like other things, like a finger or maybe an unflexed muscle. A soft cock is sort of floppy and soft, and maybe sucking it stirs up primordial memories of nursing. At any rate, when my mouth wraps around a flaccid dick, the sensation isn’t so wholly unto itself as wrapping my mouth around an erect cock.

The erect cock has a kind of kinetic smoothness, a sort of strange resilient rigidity. There is almost no drag as my mouth moves over the taut skin of a hard dick. Something about the hard dick—a hard dick that I like, which for the intents and purposes of this piece we’ll just take as assumed—compels me to suck it. A soft dick elicits a different response from me; I want to nurture it with my mouth. A hard dick, though, I feel a challenge to devour.

When I’m in bed with Donny, for example, I often have to remind myself to slow down and tease him. Intellectually, I recognize the purpose of the oral tease; I get the point of attenuating the blowjob act for his pleasure. But when I’m on my knees in front of him, or hovering over his prone body, or supine with him straddling my shoulders, and his big fat-bellied cock is there—right there—in front of my nose, it’s pretty much all I can do not to take it in my mouth and down my gullet as far as I can, which, at first, isn’t so far.

The art of deep-throating lies in two things: creating enough high-quality viscous porn-starry spit, and relaxing your throat to accommodating proportions. Both take time. The gag reflex is my friend, I know, and so I court it with a wily coquettishness. I take the dick in as far as it just uncomfortably will go, and I wait, holding my breath, until I find my throat begin to relax and until I need to breathe. Then I’ll slide my mouth to the tip, do a little do-si-do with my tongue at the end, and slide back up until I just barely begin to gag and hold again, swallowing the tip.

At these moments what I feel is a mixture of challenge and trust and pride. I trust the man not to thrust and fuck up my prep time. I challenge myself to see how much I can put in my throat, how long I can hold it, how easily I can get ready. And I feel pride in a blowjob well begun. When a guy does thrust and fuck my face before I have properly lubed my throat, it hurts. It feels a lot like when you swallow very hot soup or too big a piece of lamb shank. It sometimes makes me gag a bit, and other times it makes me gag a lot.

How do you give the best blowjob?

August 13, 2008

Q: How do you give the best blow job he’s ever gotten?

My friend Alexis McKinnis answers this question so brilliantly in her Alexis on the Sexes column for Minneapolis paper, I’ll leave it to her:

Fellatio is a game of confidence. Before you even start, get it in your head that you’re about to give your man the most pleasurable experience he’s ever had. The more you tell yourself this, the better your performance will be…

Use your boobs, because straight guys like boobs. There’s no need to limit the blow job to oral manipulation; head upward and kiss his chest and belly while the girls introduce themselves to Mr. Johnson. Push down slightly and rock in an up-and-down motion, then let up and run your nipples along his sensitive parts.

Read the rest of her blowjob tutorial here.